Nonviolent Communication (abbreviated NVC) is an approach to nonviolent living developed by Marshall Rosenburg in the 1960s. The premise is that each human being has the capacity for compassion and only resorts to conflict when they don’t have access to more effective tools, resources and strategies for meeting their needs. Rosenburg suggests habits of speaking and thinking that lead to the use of verbal and physical violence are learned through culture.
NVC theory supposes all human behaviour stems from attempts to meet universal human needs and that these needs are never in conflict. Rather, conflict arises when strategies for meeting needs clash. NVC proposes that people identify shared needs, revealed by the thoughts and feelings that surround these needs, and can collaborate to develop strategies that meet them. NVC creates both harmony and learning for future cooperation.
NVC is useful as a process of interpersonal communication to improve compassionate connection to our significant other. Starting from a position of responsible communication, and a commitment to not infringe or inflict harm or distress onto our partners will benefit our relationships exponentially.